LISTEN to those around you, they will offer you a good point of view to something you probably can't see on your own. We as supposedly open minded individuals (Come on, we watch things with non existent technology, time leaps and magical girls!) should be the one's to see that there is a point to some of what our parents our siblings are saying.
This is a general thing, when in public do not talk in such a loud voice that the person peeing at the farthest cubicle can hear every bit of your conversation.
Keep private matters private, even if you're so goddamed proud of what you did with your wig and how you had to save it to make it look like it does. As for changing into costumes, do not occupy an entire sink just for your stuff.
That isn't your bathroom. It's for everyone! And if you don't want people wanting us cosplayers gone from those areas then the best we can do is share and be polite about it. We aren't paying anything extra to make use of the public toilet so we shouldn't be expecting special treatment. And when a guard is yelling into a megaphone straight into your ears, resist the urge to kick or yell at him and simply do what you're told.
Though a friendly, "Kuya/Sir I can hear you just fine" with a laugh even if the guard looks mean or pissed wouldn't hurt.
From Admiration to Stalking
Just imagine, if you had a little sister, and she tells you that a group of guys are blatantly waiting for her outside of the comfort room area or in a staircase to her class or office wouldn't you fear for her? A GROUP OF GUYS WAITING is never a good thing more so if you don't even know them, it's one of the scariest things to actually experience.
If it's something that would cause someone discomfort or fear, than that's definitely stalking. Conventions are different as people there are in the area for good reason, to share a commonality that is the hobby. But to randomly approach a stranger just because they look like a 'cosplayer' or that she or he is REALLY so goddamned cute, is NEVER a good thing. THERE ARE PLACES to make friends and outside a comfort room is NOT IT. Or a staircase or an elevator, if you make the person feel like they're 'cornered' into talking to you. That won't lead to anything good, it might even get you into prison for harassment.
There is no need for links here, you only need to do an FB name search and you can get it. If you were expecting ME and my nakedness? You're better off waiting for male pregnancy to happen. Because only the doctors who operated on my mom during pregnancy, my mom, my childhood nanny and my future husband is allowed that. It's EXCLUSIVE, which no amount of likes or money can EVER hope to buy.
If I were a guy, I'd find this day and age absolutely easy to get my 'game-on', 'do the dirty do, 'a date with Ms Right' easily.
How so? If you have to ask, then please talk to me and let's be friends because I need people who are not yet tainted with this thing we call the internet. But then again, if you're reading my blog, that just means you're very adept with it as this is a very tiny corner of this vast world.
On to the point:
There was instant sharing of food/location, there were ways to easily cancel appointments, and book flights, and now even pleasure and showing off how slutty you are is as easy as pressing a button and ta-dah! The whole world can see all of your soul if you still have it
Am not a huge fan of naming names and bashing people, but since she likes attention so much I'll give her my 10 minutes and an article here in my blog. She might even all caps glory me to death or enjoy the 'attention' (or rather dislike) she's gotten from me.
Minding my own business
I'M TRYING, I've seen her page and posts through a friend around a month ago but as a girl who gets cat calls and such? She's becoming much worse and I find being disrespected as a girl seriously degrading. And when one person acts and tends to represent an entire 'hobby' it becomes so easy to generalize for people who don't want to give it a second thought. (Which is possibly 99.9% of this world's populace -- ok maybe 70% and the other 30% are rare pokemons) She supposedly does 'cosplays' which is in seriously mediocre to almost awful quality which really hurts the purist inside of me.
My views on Baring Skin
It's one thing to be sexy even without taking your clothes off, honestly I've become really aware of my behind due to several friends and total strangers commenting on it. As much as I TRY NOT to draw attention from it, people seem to really like to comment on how 'big' it is and such. So even at this degree wherein I'm more or less clad (Good example is the SnK Mikasa cosplay on Left hand side) it was still considered a 'sexy cosplay' But more or less I can standby on the fact that my MAIN MOTIVE WAS TO PORTRAY MIKASA. Not show off my goddamned ass.
I've never shown cleavage or even so much as a bare butt cheek in my cosplays. I try to be as 'child friendly' as I can but I can't help who sees the photos so that's a risk I've been taking.
For girls who feel the need
You might want to firstly, tell your parents about your path to whore-dom. Or maybe not, maybe whores don't really value any form of respect at all. Being naked, or merely covering your nipples with hands or other objects--- is just plain porn. What was/is your motive? I doubt it's an act of being naive, I'd rather see girls act cutesy then be an outright slut. As I've said before. I have no qualms about sexy cosplay, it's just the emphasis should still be on COSPLAY and not the SEXY.
If you're really rocking that accurately made costume then being sexy is just a plus.
Being a bait and tempting people
Not everyone who sees your photos are fine with just letting their hands do the work, sometimes that might fuel a desire far greater and animalistic. Anything anyone does has a direct effect to everyone else, or at least that's how I view this life. And when you post nude or almost nude photos, you tempt someone. It's not as big an effect as dressing up scantily, you directly affect yourself when you do that. And you WILL BE a walking temptation and are easy to act on. It's all about caring about OTHER PEOPLE and YOURSELF a little more.
If you REALLY REALLY (x10) HAVE to be a slut
I'll go martial law on you in this one, so you're tempting people? You're posing with nothing but bottle caps or your hands?
Let them do the deed with you or basically use you up as you seem to be happy being fap material anyway, so maybe since you enjoy eyes on you so much invite EVERYONE of your pervert kingdom. Facebook is so easily accessible and seeing as people seem to enjoy exposing themselves in it, it's not impossible that YOU (YES YOU) might have inadvertently cause someone pain with whatever you posted.
RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR ACTIONS should have been a basic thing your mom or dad taught you, but seeing as sluts grew boobs instead of brains I guess we have to live in a world where there's just free porn for everyone, like it or not. What I just don't like is the fact that people spread it around like wildfire. If people can't post responsibly, at least share responsibly. If it's a post you don't want your dad or mom to see, chances are there IS SOMETHING wrong with it.
To Online Harassers + Trolls
Please, please, please just leave us quiet one's out of this and just go to people like that who obviously enjoy the attention. We might want a bit of appreciation from time to time but trust us, we don't mind being left in the dust when it comes down to it. We can just smile to ourselves in content. Don't pick on the innocent, go to the one's who are definitions of 'dolts' and 'perverse' just like you.
I have not been able to update, so much has happened and most of it unseemly.
Life just wants to sucks sometimes, and when it does you might simply want to throw the towel in and give up.
Am no superhero, I've tried giving up once or twice with no success.
I'd admit, it's rather hard not to be able to give up but it's also a little more interesting this way.
Even though we have to smile or act like there's nothing wrong in cosplay we do have problems. And even though anime characters are simply so flawless and don't get fat -- we do. So don't be so hard on yourself!! I'm trying to say this to myself more often as I'm really a hard critic on myself but it's not working. :|
The world in itself, the people in it, your boss, your co-worker may already be hard on you even the economy might be hard on you (Even the traffic) Try to ease up on yourself cause no one else will know when you need a breather more than YOU.
No matter how heavy the makeup is, or how wide and long the falsies are, there is a heart beating inside that binded/dolled up chest and there are feelings that get hurt when things get said. No matter how you feel the need to be mean, rude or derogatory keep it to yourself. There's always room to be civil in the wide world of the internet.
And as a last tip to people out there who are so engrossed in the hobby:
Unless you're making a stable livelihood at this, I won't suggest making it your entire life. As much as we want to, believe me I'd rather stay at home daily and do shoots and whatnot there's "REAL LIFE" waiting for me 5 days of the week + extra sidelines whenever I need the cash for extravagant locations and materials. I have absolutely ZERO return financially in this costume hobby. And honestly I regret nothing. If you're fine with this, and can support it go ahead. But if you're bothering someone else for money -- then I suggest you learn that it's a tougher world. But if you're quite the independent person...
Remember to always have people who support you, remember that no matter how introverted you are --You still need other people (to talk to/to smile with/and to be weird around)