You might think you’re against drama, but I’ve noticed people time and time again saying that they’re not into drama but are actually cultivating it almost daily on their walls. It’s almost as if they’re asking for it, and don’t even know.
Negative Call outs
Ever called out someone, to face him/her over a conversation on your wall PUBLICLY? No matter how cool you think that is, that’s actually drama fodder. And that’s just not going to cut it.
If you REALLY don’t want drama, just talk it over either in person or private PM. No matter how aggravated or cheated you feel there’s always that step first before bringing stuff into public.
There's no point in dragging other people into it, as you will do that when you tag someone to TALK to them about serious matters that should be handled in private.
"I Hate Anon"
You are infuriated with this person, and you just want to tell everyone that you utterly despise the way he’s tried to talk to you again and court you for the nth time. And you’re just so damned tired of it you have to tell all of your friends or anyone who might see your wall.
How about, just try blocking or ignoring a person completely?
Trust me, as much as it’s nice to get your point and feelings across— steering clear away from jerks like that will save you from more stress in the future. I have done this time and time again, and the only things that I focus on are my myriad of hobbies.
PROTIP: You can't become a better person complaining about others. You might become a better critic of other people, but there's too many of those already and you don't want to be part of that, right?
Fodder for Trolls
You turned on the Anon in your ask.fm account, and you’re now getting questions that are bordering on rude to perverted questions. People like the power of being anonymous, ALL THE TIME.
I mean if I were invisible and wouldn’t need to pay for whatever wrongdoing I committed, I can't really guarantee a hundred percent that I won't at least get free meals from places I really like. Or get games or travel for free and such. You see, if someone had the power to be immune to punishment or cause and effect there's really no telling what he/she will be capable off. So don't go around testing it if you can't handle it.
My Wall, My opinion
We all have this mind-set: Whatever I want, I can post on MY WALL. No, not really while yes you CAN post almost absolutely anything anywhere on the internet. If it somehow annoys or hits someone’s nerves hard, you WILL get burned for it. More so if you’re giving negative opinions. That’s the weird aspect of the internet, there are a TON of self-righteous people just waiting for you to make a mistake and act like you’re the biggest jerk in the face of the planet. Even though there’s around a 90% chance that what you voiced your opinion about isn’t as bad as people sexually harassing or stalking other people. So just watch what you say and to who.
If you REALLY want to stay away from drama, you really can.
I have been issue free since…I don’t know, I mean I’ve probably been ridiculed so many times, featured on some satire blog twice or so but I don’t really read up on it. I just now it’s “There” floating around.
Think about it:
There are around 7 billion people in this world, and tons of them have varying ideas and beliefs. You might only meet up to a hundred of those, but that’s still a hundred different ideas. So take care not to burden yourself with the unneeded soap operas.
I always try and tell myself:
If you have time to complain?
Just use it to improve or learn something new!!
Am not perfect or anything, but I do know that some people are naturally attracting drama even when they don't mean to! And these are possibly some huge flags you can avoid doing whenever applicable. As these are sure ways to attract an audience and some trolls who might be not what you're looking to attract. Other than those? There are really lots of better ways to spending your afternoon than staying at home or just simply staring at your Facebook endlessly.
Your Local Cafe/Coffee Shop
One of my favorite places to hang out most often are at cafe's.
PROS: They're semi-private places and people taking pictures of themselves or their companions is a common day occurrence. People wouldn't bother you so much and most of the time, coffee shops are really nicely decorated. It's also easy to fix yourself up or wear the wig at the cafe itself.
CONS Chair availability and lighting, as you shouldn't bother people as much there's really no room for massive lighting equipment. Besides you aren't renting the place! So you'd do well to at least be prepared to process the tinges of yellow of your face or to compensate for the lack of light through flash or small reflectors.
But remember to actually buy things from it and not overcrowd one table. It's one thing to take shoots for free at a place, it's another to rob them of their customers.
Public parks + Empty lots
The picture on the right hand side is better lit than the one that was shot in a parking lot due to over exposure and uncontrollable wind. My wig was flying all over the place and so were my fringes. A slight wind can toss a wig all over the place and make you less like the character you're trying to portray as you can see
I've always been astounded by my friends who go around public parks and do all sorts of poses. It's something that's completely nerve-wracking for me. (And that's why I usually rent studios as well) But sometimes, you can't get plants and other such greenery in studios, there's also a lack of 'texture' if you just go to a studio.
PROS: Texture and bokeh for the image, there's a lot of possibilities for the composition of your images. There's always the possibility of a beautiful sky shot, or the wind giving you an added visual beauty through uplifted skirts and twirling wigs. Plus if it's not free, you usually just have to pay a minimal fee of more or less 50 php or a dollar or less.
CONS:: Not for the weak of heart, I was really anxious as people started to wave at me. And as children started to just stare at me through fenced walls. And although there were times that I forgot about the fright, it always does come back as people tend to really flock over people in costumes. Plus Public parks mean all sorts of people from all walks of life. Not all of them will respect your 'privacy' and will jump in to get pictures of you as well.
Vacant lots, Parking lots, and Rooftops
As long as you don't start setting up lighting equipment and reflectors you won't really be bothered. They'll leave you to your whims. Most people go along their business in places like these!
PROS: Does not hurt the wallet, texture galore and composition is something that should be easy to come by. There's also wide open spaces that usually make a picture breath taking. It also makes it feel "real" unlike the white background photos I usually go for.
Cons: No place to retouch, and you would have to get to these places with most of your costume already on. Which means being ogled from wherever you parked/came from up to where the empty lot is. Another is there really isn't any place to retouch and you're at the mercy of nature. If it rains, then let's hope your makeup is waterproof! (And so is your photographer's gear)
I hope this helps someone out there!
As shooting shouldn't be 'just a dream' if you've worked hard for a costume, am sure you can muster up the courage and organize a shoot with friends!
LISTEN to those around you, they will offer you a good point of view to something you probably can't see on your own. We as supposedly open minded individuals (Come on, we watch things with non existent technology, time leaps and magical girls!) should be the one's to see that there is a point to some of what our parents our siblings are saying.
This is a general thing, when in public do not talk in such a loud voice that the person peeing at the farthest cubicle can hear every bit of your conversation.
Keep private matters private, even if you're so goddamed proud of what you did with your wig and how you had to save it to make it look like it does. As for changing into costumes, do not occupy an entire sink just for your stuff.
That isn't your bathroom. It's for everyone! And if you don't want people wanting us cosplayers gone from those areas then the best we can do is share and be polite about it. We aren't paying anything extra to make use of the public toilet so we shouldn't be expecting special treatment. And when a guard is yelling into a megaphone straight into your ears, resist the urge to kick or yell at him and simply do what you're told.
Though a friendly, "Kuya/Sir I can hear you just fine" with a laugh even if the guard looks mean or pissed wouldn't hurt.
From Admiration to Stalking
Just imagine, if you had a little sister, and she tells you that a group of guys are blatantly waiting for her outside of the comfort room area or in a staircase to her class or office wouldn't you fear for her? A GROUP OF GUYS WAITING is never a good thing more so if you don't even know them, it's one of the scariest things to actually experience.
If it's something that would cause someone discomfort or fear, than that's definitely stalking. Conventions are different as people there are in the area for good reason, to share a commonality that is the hobby. But to randomly approach a stranger just because they look like a 'cosplayer' or that she or he is REALLY so goddamned cute, is NEVER a good thing. THERE ARE PLACES to make friends and outside a comfort room is NOT IT. Or a staircase or an elevator, if you make the person feel like they're 'cornered' into talking to you. That won't lead to anything good, it might even get you into prison for harassment.